Don't get me wrong I'm really not a self help book kinda person but this one caught me. The book is called The Happiness Project and while most of the book was pretty hard to get through it did make me look at my happiness in a different way.
She talks about happiness not just being an in-the-moment thing but a 3 part thing. Happiness first starts in the anticipation of something you're looking forward to. In this case planning a wedding dress, selecting fabrics and embellishments, making muslins and looking forward to the moment when you actually get to enjoy this thing you've been waiting for. Then there's the actual happiness of being in the moment. Wearing the dress, sharing it with the world and watching this thing materialise that you've been looking forward to. And finally the happiness in reminiscing about this thing. In this case the lifetime long memories of a wedding dress made and worn on one of the most significant days of your life and caught on camera to look back on for years to come.
This is the thing I wanted to recognise. Making a wedding dress was as much about the journey as the destination. On top of that it will also be about the story I get to tell when I look back on what I've made.
Since happiness is something that I can enjoy in multiple stages in different ways I really wanted to find the maximum amount of joy out of it. So I made a video. One that captures the joy of the details, the fabrics being prepared, sewn together, adjusted, moulded to my person and finally ending up as something that gets to be worn and enjoyed only for a day but thought upon and shared for many years to come.
That's not to say that this process has all been fun and games. It has not. If you've been following along you'd know that I had to throw out two bodice patterns before my third-time-lucky Simplicity pattern. You might also know I had to throw out two skirt patterns before my third-time-lucky three-quarter circle skirt solution. So perhaps it will come as no surprise to you that I didn't just make one wedding dress bodice or two for that matter. I made three. My third-time-lucky bodice thankfully turned out to be the one. So I guess this is the third-time-lucky third-time-lucky dress. And let's not even talk about my zipper breaking just before I went to hem the dress.
It's been real.
So without further ado here she is, my wedding dress.
I'm scheduling this post to go live right as future me is walking down the aisle in this very dress. You can follow along with some wedding photos by following the hashtag #benbrookwedding.
I'll be back with a little more info on the dress in the coming weeks particularly because this video will show you the most peculiar order of construction I went through to get this together.
Time to dance!